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I teach you how to stop wasting your time and energy on bad relationships and marriage by learning the skills that you need to have that happy lifelong relationship or marriage. So if that’s what you’re looking for, then I am happy you’re here.
If you are in a marriage or you are just starting out, or even if you’re in a long-term relationship, a lot of the times what ends up happening is that we get stuck in the routine of life, and the priority of our relationship starts to drop down the list.
Our relationship starts taking the back seat and as we all know, as men, one of the things that women love is romance.
If it has been a while since you have done anything romantic for your wife or for your girlfriend, and you want some ideas and tips on how to bring the feeling of romance and attraction in your relationship again.
Here are a few romantic things that you can do to make your wife or girlfriend feel amazing and feel you’re still committed, invested and in love with them.
5 Romantic Things To Do For Your Wife
1. Listen To Her (Women want to be understood)
I know this might sound generic and boring, and you might wonder how listening is something that is romantic.
But as you may have known, men want to be respected, and women want to be understood. In order to understand your girlfriend or your wife, you have to be able to listen to them.
If she had a bad day and wants to vent about it, and you sit and actively listen, acknowledge and validate her feelings, that creates a sense of love, intimacy and bond between you two and that is very romantic.
You are showing her that you care and she matters to you at that moment and to be able to focus and give her your loving attention is something that I, and I’m sure many women, would consider to be romantic.
2. Be Spontaneous
Spontaneity is necessary in a relationship if you want to have an exciting and successful relationship.
As I said before, when you are in a relationship, you get comfortable with each other, and that’s perfectly normal and okay.
But sometimes that comfort turns into routine and it’s when you fall into a routine, that your relationship starts to suffer.
Spontaneity is key. Book a random hotel room one day of the week, don’t tell them, and surprise them.
Or book a weekend trip somewhere; it doesn’t have to be super far, it can be right outside of the city.
Just do anything to shift and change the dynamic in your relationship. If those are too big for you and it’s not financially feasible, just do things that you don’t usually do on a daily basis.
If you haven’t seen the sunset in a while, just randomly take your girlfriend or your spouse to watch the sunset.
Those spontaneity and changes in the relationship, is what really gets the spark back.
3. Surprise Her
This goes along with spontaneity. If you are planning a weekend trip or you book a hotel for one night, that is going to surprise her and it’s a very romantic thing to do.
But you can also do small gestures and still surprise her in ways she was not anticipating.
For example, you can write her a love note and leave it in a place where you know she’ll find it or slip it into her purse before she goes to work.
Or send flowers to her job when they aren’t anticipating it, take her to a restaurant you haven’t been to in five years or a few months.
Just do anything to make them feel like you are invested in the relationship or things that make her feel happy.
4. Be Physical
This doesn’t necessarily mean s(e)x, because a lot of the time what men will think when I say “be physical” is “have s(e)x.” which is not necessarily what I am saying.
There are different levels to physical intimacy and s(e)x is at the top level.
You have to get your girlfriend or your wife in the mood before you can even move on to the level of s(e)x.
And remember—that s(e)x is a choice; it is not a responsibility in your relationship.
If you are trying to get your girlfriend in the mood, there are things that you can do, and a big part of that is being romantic, which is what this entire topic is about.
But physical touch can be more than just s(e)x. It can be when you’re sitting on the couch, you put your arm around her or you bring her in close while you guys are watching a movie.
It can also be you putting your head on her lap while you’re watching the movie, holding hands with her, when you’re walking down the street, you’re putting your hand around her hips.
Or just any physical touch that lets her know that you are there with her, that you are her partner, that you are physically attracted to her and that you want to touch her.
Those things are what you can do in order to increase the romance in your relationship and make your woman feel wanted.
5. Speak Her Love Language
Love languages are basically how we receive information and how we love as people.
There are a few of them: words of affirmation, physical touch, and receiving gifts. In total, there are five, but each person has a different love language.
If you are not fully aware of love languages, or if you’ve never heard of this term before, I would suggest a book for you guys:
“The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate” by Gary Chapman.
I am not a sponsor for Gary Chapman; I don’t have any relation to Gary Chapman or his book.
It’s just a book that I have read that has revolutionized the way that I look at love and the language of love.
I highly recommend it if this is the first time you’re hearing about love languages, or if you were familiar with them but didn’t exactly know what that meant.
Tuning into that and really being able to focus on what your partner’s love language is will make all the difference in the world.
Final word
As I mentioned previously in this blogpost, if you are wanting to do more romantic things with your wife, to spice things up again, it is very possible that the reason is because you guys have fallen into a bit of a slump.
You’ve fallen into a routine, and that is completely normal in every single relationship. But again, the killer of relationships is routine.
I hope you have learned some ways to be more romantic to your wife and bring the feeling of freshness and excitement back into your marriage or relationship.
If you have read to this place, thanks for reading, take care and be safe.